Monday, June 8, 2015

Copenhagen, Denmark, Vaxjo, Sweden dan Dubai, UAE Bahagian 3

  Ok, ini entry saya yang ketiga. Di bahagian 2 saya menceritakan mengenai pengalaman saya di Vaxjo, Sweden. Kali ini saya ingin berkongsi pengalaman berada di Copenhagen, Denmark. Memang terpaksa buat banyak bahagian sebab pergi 3 negara dalam masa 7 hairi.

  Semasa perjalanan ke Vaxjo, Sweden memang kami singgah di Copenhagen tapi sebab nak cepat kami singgah sebentar sebelum ke Vaxjo, Sweden. Kami naik train ke Vaxjo selama lebih kurang 3 jam. Cuaca yang sejuk dan nyaman memang menyeronokkan dan tak pernah dialami. Semasa pergi ke Sabah pun tidak sesejuk sini. Kami bermalam di sini masa nak balik ke Malaysia. Jadi pitstop banyak sikit supaya anak anak dan mak bapa takde la penat sangat macam waktu datang tempoh hari.

  Ok. Kami menginap di Hotel Rye di Copenhagen. Harga dia dalam RM600 duit Malaysia. Kami kena berkongsi toilet. Masa di Vaxjo pun rate dia lebih kurang sama cuma biliknya lebih besar dan eksklusif. Di hotel Rye kami kena berkongsi tandas. Ini gambar hotel tersebut.


  Memang sangat besar dan homely. Kami sukakan hotel ini. Cumanya yang tak best kena kongsi toilet dgn mat salleh lain. Mereka ada tabiat tak suka lantai toilet basah jadi kami kena adaptasikan dengan kena keringkan lantai setiap kali guna. memang payah jugak la.. 


  Yang ini hotel kami di Sweden, memang besar dan selesa. Lupa nak tangkap gambar bilik sebab terlampau letih. Sampai je hotel pukul 5 petang kami anak beranak tertido sampai pukul 12 malam sbb nak solat maghrib dan isyak secara jamak. Pukul 2.30 pagi dah subuh jadi mmg tak boleh nak lelapkan mata balik.

  Perbezaan Copenhagen dengan Vaxjo ialah Copenhagen adalah tourist attraction jadi ramai tempat menarik disini tapi jika di Vaxjo bukan tourist attraction jadi kami dapat belajar budaya mereka sebab mereka tak biasa menerima tetamu dari Asia.

  Di Copenhagen lagi susah nak cari makanan halal sebab memang tak ramai muslim di sana. Di Vaxjo ramai juga kami nampak orang pakai tudung. Di sini susah betul nak jumpa.



  Ini gambar masa di Copenhagen. Dekat belakang kami sepanjang panjang jalan dijual arak yang banyak. Bayangkan arak lagi murah daripada air mineral? Sejuk macam ni memang diaorang suka minum arak kot. Kami beli tiket bas online. Suami yang jumpa. Kena download software nama mobililitter. Lebih kurang macam tu la nama dia. Beli tiket online 24 jam. harga dalam RM40 duit kita. Kanak kanak bawah 12 tahun adalah percuma. Kami beli tiket pukul 10.30 pagi jadi expired kul 10.30 pagi esoknya.

  Boleh naik mana mana bas dan water bus keliling Copenhagen. Memang best sbb tunjukkan online tikt je. Lepas tu boleh naik bas dah. Satu lagi saya lupa nak khabarkan pasal Sweden. Jangan terkejut tau kalau pergi sana, memang tak payah tukar duit langsung. Cuma activatekan kad kredit. Naik bas pun bayar pakai kad kredit. Terkejut jugak la kami. Setiap 7 eleven pun ada tempat nak letak kad kredit untuk kita letak dan bayar. Slot kad kredit tu mmg dahm neghadap kita dah pun.


Ini gambar dalam waterbus. Dalam bas tak ambil sbb naik bas kejap kejap je.. Lagipun ramai sangat orang jadi mmg x sempat nak tangkap. Tambahan pula beg banyak.


Ini waterbus yang lain. Kami naik free sebab dah bayar dgn tiket 24 jam tu. Sangat murah dan mudah. Tiket 24 jam tu pun boleh diguna pakai untuk naik metro atau lebih dikenali sebagai keretapi. Jadi memang saving dari segi tu. Naik waterbus tengok pemandangan. Memang cantik..


Unik je bangunan dekat Copenhagen ni. Memang berbaloi ke sini.


Ini rumah sepanjang kami naik waterbus. Memang unik betul. Lain benar dgn stuktur bangunan di Malaysia.


Ini gambar kedai Doner Kebab dekat Copenhagen. Kami terpaksa jalan kaki selama 30 minit sebab tak tahu nak naik bas yang mana satu. Tapi memang berbaloi makan dekat sini. Gambar di atas masakan fish and chips dia. Sos dia mmg sedap! Ingat nak tangkap gambar selepas habiskan suku makanan. Lapar sangat tau!


Yang ini makan kebab roti dia. Memang sedap la. Murah pun murah dan portion dia memang banyak. Puas hati la makan.

  Hari kedua kami terpaksa bermalam di hotel lain sebab kami salah tengok tiket nak naik flight bukan esok tapi lusa, Jadi kami pun dapat menginap di Generator Hostel. Mula mula memang berat hati nak duduk dekat sini sebab nama pun hostel tapi memang standard dkt sini walaupun hostel tapi taraf macam hotel. Kalah tunes hotel. Bilik takde la besar mana tapi ada toilet sendiri dan tak perlu lap lantai lagi.. ahaks! hihihi. Masih lagi RM600 sebab booking last minute tapi kalau awal boleh dapat harga RM300 je.

  Ini lah hostel yang kami duduk hari kedua di sini.


Ini sebuah curch di Trivoli. Masa ni jam pukul 8.30 malam. 


Ini dekat taman di belakang hotel. Masa ni jam pukul 9 malam. Maghrib pukul 9.30 malam.


Ini kedai favourite suami ku. Kedai hardrock. Ramai sangat duk pesan baju. Jadi lepak di sini dulu. Dah tak larat nak tulis. Nanti saya ceritakan pengalaman di Dubai pulak ya? 


Sunday, June 7, 2015

Copenhagen, Denmark, Vaxjo, Sweden and Dubai, UAE Bahagian 2

  Okey, saya nak sambung cerita pasal pergi ketiga tiga negara di atas. Bahagian 1 saya dah pun cerita bagaimana saya dengan last minute semuanya pergi buat passport, beli tiket kapal terbang dan perjalanan di atas kapal terbang. Sekarang ni say nak cerita pengalaman berada di Vaxjo, Sweden. Sebutan dia bukan Vaxjo tapi vakhio.. Kawasan ni telah diberi gelaran the most greenest city in europe.

  Memang green pun sebab kebanyakkan penduduk naik basikal ke tempat kerja dan mereka selalu berjogging di tasik mereka sepanjang 4.7 km!! Memang terperanjat juga sebab diri ini tidak pernah ke luar negara selain mengerjakan umrah sahaja.. itu pun tahun 2004.. lama sangat dah tak berjalan.. setakat dalam negara je.



  Ini peta tasik mereka. dekat sini 90 percent mereka boleh berbahasa inggeris dan inggeris mereka lebih kurang british english jadi sangat mudah nak faham. Memang friendly orang orang disini sebab kalau minta tolong confirm dia tolong sampai kita dapat apa yang kita minta tolong tu. Lebih kurang orang kita jugak la. Orang islam memang minoriti di sini jadi nak cari makanan halal memang susah sikit la kecuali vegetarian. Nasib baik la dah bawak luggage satu beg penuh dengan makanan seperti bubur instant knorr, roti, sambal hitam, biskut, susu dan macam macam lagi.


Ini makanan yang kami beli semasa di sana. Nama dia falafel.. tak pasti betul ke tak ejaan dia tapi bunyi dia macam tu la. Semua vegetarian. dalam dia isi carrot dan sayur. Kalau tak makan makanan macam ni kami makan pizza je. Janji dia ada tulis shawarma.. confirm halal.


Ini pizza dia.. memang besar dan mahal sikit tapi roti pizza dia sedap.. tak macam dekat Malaysia.. Memang padat la. Ini pizza daging.. Cari yang tulis shawarma je. Sepanjang kami di sana. Memang tak risau pasal pick pocket langsung. Senang dan mudah nak bawa anak anak jalan jalan sambil tunggu husband balik kerja. Dia kena pergi Alstom dkt Vaxjo. Sini tak banyak sangat benda boleh buat tapi pemandangan dia cantik cantik.


Ini masa dekat taman sekitar tasik Vaxjo.


Pada waktu ni pukul 7 malam tapi masih terang sebab malam dia pendek, maghrib pukul 9.30 malam, isyak pukul 11.30 malam dan subuh pukul 2.30 pagi. Sekarang musim luruh. Suhu 5 darjah celcius.  Memang sejuk tapi bila angin bertiup lagi tak tahan sebab angin dia kencang.. bukan macam dkt Malaysia. Kalau anda perasan dekat sini adalah laluan basikal dan pejalan kaki. Setiap kali basikal lalu dia akan merekodkan berapa banyak yang dah lalu supaya mengajak mereka semua berbasikal.. memang unik.


Ini pun sekitar tasik vaxjo



Kalau nampak tulisan dia.. Sejarah vaxjo.. Tasik dia kalau musim sejuk akan keras dan mereka akan bermain ice skating di atasnya. Kereta pun boleh lalu i atasnya.


 Menurut kata Christen seorang pekerja di Alstom. Ada seorang botanist yang sangat terkenal nama dia lineur.. ejaan tak pasti tapi sebutnya begitu. Dia yang menjumpai organ seks di dalam tumbuh tumbuhan dan dikacukan sehingga menjadi bunga yang cantik.. Memang cantik pun..


 Ini terpaksa pakaikan anak carrier sebab selalu berlari tanpa taahu arah tuju..


Anak daraku yang seronok dapat pergi tempat sejuk.

 Ini sejarah dia tapi most of the time tak faham sebab walaupun mereka pandai berbahasa inggeris tapi mereka sangat mengagungkan bahasa Swedish.. Memang susah nak cari tulisan inggeris di sini.

 Cantik kan pemandangan di sini. Memang satu kelainan. Mengamit perasaan tenang ketika i sini.



Baju sejuk, gloves yang saya pakai semuua adik adik yang punya. Nasib baik ada adik adik yang selalu travel.. saiz badn pun lebih kurang sama.. kalau tak terpaksa beli baju sejuk yang boleh tahan jugak harga dia. Memang pengalaman yang berharga dapat jalan ke sini. Ornag orang sini age gap mmg banyak. Mereka tak ramai penduduk. The whole of Sweden baru 9 juta orang. Jadi bila bawak anak anak mereka sangat suka sebab susah nak cari budak budak dekat sini. 

  Sweden adalah satu negara yang menerima pelarian disebabkan oleh kekurangan penduduk. Mereka akan ambil dan sekolahkan mereka. Dengan syarat mereka bekerja dengan mereka. Memang salute sebab tak ada diskriminasi sepanjang kami di sini. 


Ini gambat Mathias.. pekerja alstom masa dinner dgn diaorang.. Sangat tinggi mereka ni.. terasa pendeknya la..

Ini masa naik train dari Copenhagen Denmark ke Vaxjo Sweden. Perjalanan memakan masa lebih kurang 3 jam untuk sampai. Memang penat tapi berbaloi.


Pengalaman berharga yang memang tak dapat saya lupakan. Semoga ada rezeki ingin saya ke sana lagi. Insyaallah.. Nanti saya ceritakan pengalaman di bumi Denmark pula ya?


Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Copenhagen, Denmark, Vaxjo, Sweden and Dubai, UAE Bahagian 1

  First and for most I would like to just say that it has been ages since I lasrt write in my blog.. Memang dah bersawang dah blog ni nampaknya.. So, hari ni i nak tulis pasal my trip to this 3 countries.

  Memang tak ku sangka dapat pergi ke sana. Mula mula tu memang sepatutnya hubby je pergi sana sebab atas urusan kerja. Tup tup last minit hari Rabu (13/5/2015) baru beli tiket sedangkan nak perginya sabtu minggu itu. (16/5/2015).

  Perkara yang kedua pula bawak pulak anak anak ku yang berusia 2 dan 5 tahun. Memang kerja gila! Pasal apa? Pasalnya naik flight pertama from KL to Dubai dan 6 hours 30 minutes, then transit 3 hours, lepas tu continue with flight from Dubai to Copenhagen 6 hours and 30 minutes jugak. After that we have to board the train from Copenhagen, Denmark to Vaxjo Sweden for 3 hours! Bayangkan berapa lama baru sampai destinasi?

  Aku pun tak sangka boleh teruskan jugak plan ni. Duit dalam tangan memang tak cukup sebab flight tiket beli last minute. So terpaksa la keluarkan duit dari BSN Prudential Takaful. Nasib baik la cukup.. Dewasa RM3,500 dan kanak kanak RM2,800 seorang.. Aku kena bayar semua sekali dalam RM9,500!!

  Memang mula mula nak tinggalkan je anak anak aku dekat Malaysia tapi mak mertua aku baru dapat cucu, tak kan la dia nak jaga 7 hari kot! Lepas tu mak aku pulak tetiba je tak sihat. So angkut la semua sekali ke Sweden..

  Cuti sebagai seorang guru pun tak banyak.. 7 hari je setahun sebab katanya cuti sekolah dah banyak. Masalahnya time laki aku pi outstation je confirm time bukan cuti sekolah.. Nasib baik la guru besar aku sporting.. Lulus gak cuti aku walaupun last minute.

  Aku pun rancangkan la dalam masa yang beberapa hari je utnuk pertama sekali buat passport aku dan anak anak. Aku pun pi la hari Sabtu dekat Pelabuhan Klang Jabatan Imigresen. Mula kami sampai pukul 7.30 pagi. Nampak la ramai orang duk beratur. Imigresen buka pukul 8 pagi. Aku dengan laki aku duk cakap la.. kenapa la diaorang ni duk beratur panjang panjang.. Imigresen lum bukak lagi.

  Aku pun lepak la dalam kereta dengan anak anak sebab malas nak beratur. Lepas je kul 8 pagi imigresen pun buka. Rupa rupanya beratur kena ambil nombor! Sampai je dekat sana kami kira antara yang last dapat nombor. Lepas je kul 8.15 nombor habis. Memang Allah nak tolong. Kalau tak memang tak buat passport la jawabnya.

  Punya lah lama nak tunggu giliran. Aku dekat Imigresen dari pukul 7.30 sampai pukul 1.00 tenghari. Kami lah orang yang terakhir keluar dari Imigresen.. Memang kalau dah rezeki kami dapat buat passport.. kalau tidak memang tak jadi la kami pi europe.

  Untuk pengetahuan semua memang aku tak pernah pi overseas pun. Aku pernah pi umrah je masa tu tahun 2002 kalau tak silap aku. Singapore pun aku tak pernah pergi.. Apatah lagi Indonesia..
Tup tup dapat pi Europe you! Siapa la tak excited macam aku ni..

  Akupun pi la rancang bawak 3 bag. Satu hand carry and 2 check in bag. Tak boleh nak bawak banyak sgt sbb tiada sesiapa nak tolong angkatkan beg tu. Kami naik Emirates sbb aku tgk dia memang cater for kids. Mmg dia akan bagi soft toys and coloring book untuk anak anak kami. Bag pun kami dapat. Makanan pun diaoorang masak khas untuk anak anak. Macam macam la kami dapat sampai tak muat bag handcarry nak bawak turun.

  Tu belum lagi entertainment dia yang dipanggil ICE iaitu Information, Communication and Entertinment. Ada dalam 60 koleksi cerita Disney. Confirm anak anak tak akan bosan walaupun flight dia lama. Cerita untuk mak bapa pun best. Games pun boleh main. Seat dia pun besar. Memang puas hati la.


 Ini gambar masa dalam flight ke Dubai. Overall seat dia mmg besar dan selesa walaupun hanya kelas ekonomi. Alhamdullilah anak anak kami baik je dalam flight dan takde la mragam macam pergi Sabah hari tu yang memakan masa hanya 2 jam setengah. Mungkin sbb airasia seat dia sempit dan tak ada soft toys macam emirates bagi. Berpatutan la dengan harga yang diberikan. Tetapi aku ada buat comparison price dengan qatar airlines dan turkish airlines. Ternyata emirates harga dia tak la murah tetapi harga dia di tengah tengah antara turkish airlines dan qatar. Qatar lagi mahal. Kalau desawa sahaja RM4,500.. beza almost RM1,000 jugak tu!


Ini passport kami yang last minute buat tu!


Ini ICE yaang aku duk tulis dan sebut tu.. Memang boleh tengok flight dari kamera hadapan dan bawah.


Tengok anak anak aku.. bukan main seronok lagi diaorang!


Ini masa flight from KL to Dubai.


Ok lah.. aku nak kena masuk kelas tambahan mengajar subjek Bahasa Inggeris untuk murid murid nak UPSR taahun ni. Nanti aku sambung lagi ya? 



Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Let's learn about Idioms..

Idioms and Figurative expressions are used often in our conversations. They are groups of two or more words which must be learnt as a whole because the meaning of the expression may be different from the meanings of its parts.

1. a bad egg - a worthless person
2. above one's head - too difficult to understand
3. a cat's paw - one used as a tool to do something dangerous
4. a cock-and-bull story - an absurd and unbelievable story
5.break the ice - be the first to begin
6. bury the hatchet - make peace
7. crocodile tears - false tears
8. cut someone dead - treat someone like a total stranger
9. down to earth - practical
10. draw the line - fix the limit
11. face the music - take punishment
12. gain ground - make progress
13. go bananas - act crazily
14. hard up - short of money
15. keep one's head - keep calm
16. like a fish out of water - in a place not suited to one
17. next of kin - the nearest of relations
18. pay through the nose - pay an unreasonable price
19. see eye to eye - agree completely
20. take French leave - absent without permission


here are some examples listed for your kind references. I hope the new generation can use more Idioms and figurative expression freely in their daily conversations and essays..

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

The problem with punishment something to ponder about..

The Problem with Punishment

[Reprinted from Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages by L.R.Knost available on Amazon and other major retailers.  Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood now also available.]
teddy bear 1Want to know a dirty, little secret about punishment?
It doesn’t work.
Punishment may be able to control a child’s behavior temporarily while they’re small or when they are in their parents’ presence, but it cannot control the person.  As with all humans, outward behavior is merely a reflection of our inner selves: our needs, our hurts, our emotional states.
While the temporary ‘payoff’ of punishment may be compliance, the need behind the behavior is never addressed and those needs merely get driven underground and often emerge later in more potentially damaging behaviors such as lying, sneaking, anger, outright rebellion, depression, aggression, addictions, etc.
In the same way that treating a brain tumor by merely taking a pain reliever doesn’t address the underlying issue, masking the symptoms of an underlying need with punishment-induced compliance doesn’t solve the problem; it intensifies it.
Want to know another dirty, little secret about punishment?
It requires constant escalation.
In order to maintain the temporary effect of controlling behavior, the punishment, or threats of punishment, must constantly be ramped up. Parents who start out with popping a tiny hand escalate to smacking a chubby little leg, then paddling a small bottom. Over time, as their children’s needs which have been driven underground emerge in ever-increasing behavioral issues, parents often find that they are resorting to yelling and threats and physical punishment more and more often.
quote just when they need us the mostEven parents who use punishment-based parenting approaches other than physical punishment find that they must escalate and escalate to keep their children under ‘control.’ Behavior charts, time-outs, grounding, and removing privileges are some examples of non-physical punishment-based parenting. While these behavior modification techniques may be less painful to children physically, they still don’t address the underlying needs being communicated by the behavior and often are nearly as destructive to the parent/child relationship.
Using isolation such as time-outs or sending children to their room separates them from their source of guidance and comfort just when they need it the most and not only misses a golden opportunity to help the child learn coping mechanisms for dealing with their emotions, but also fractures the very connection that should provide the safety for expressing those emotions. Using behavior charts, removal of privileges, grounding, etc. separates children from their parents by creating an us-against-them mentality that inevitably leads to conflict instead of creating a teamwork mentality that leads to cooperation.
Here’s the thing, effective parenting and, more specifically, effective discipline, don’t require punishment. Equating discipline with punishment is an unfortunate, but common misconception. The root word in discipline is actually disciple which in the verb form means to guide, lead, teach, model, and encourage. In the noun form disciple means one who embraces the teaching of, follows the example of, and models their life after.
On the flip side, the root word in punishment is the Latin word punire which in verb form means to penalize, chastise, castigate, inflict harm, humiliate. There is no noun form of punire or its English equivalent, punishment.
Many of today’s most popular self-proclaimed parenting ‘experts’ equate physical punishment with discipline and go to great lengths to describe the best methods and tools for hitting children as well as instructing parents to maintain a calm, controlled, and even cheerful demeanor as they ‘lovingly’ hit their children.
It is interesting to note here that, when it comes to the law, crimes of passion are treated as less heinous than premeditated, planned, and purposefully executed crimes which are termed ‘in cold blood.’ And yet when physically punishing a child, a crime in many places across the globe, hitting in anger or frustration (i.e. passion) is deemed wrong by proponents of spanking, while hitting children with calm and deliberate intent (i.e. premeditation) is encouraged.
It is also interesting to note that, in the not-too-distant past, husbands hitting their wives was also viewed as not only a societal norm, but also a necessary part of maintaining a harmonious, successful marriage. In fact, a man who epitomizes the words calm and controlled, Sean Connery, shared his thoughts on the ’reasonable smacking’ of his wife in a 1987 interview with Barbara Walters in which he explained the necessity of using punitive methods to control women.
The core belief behind ‘reasonable smacking’ of wives was that there was no other effective way to control them. I agree. If controlling another human being is the goal, then force is necessary. Fear, intimidation, threats, power-plays, physical pain, those are the means of control.
But, if growing healthy humans is the goal, then building trust relationships, encouraging, guiding, leading, teaching, and communicating are the tools for success.
Many parents simply don’t know what else to do. They were raised with spanking and other punishment-based parenting methods as a means of control and “turned out okay” so they default to their own parents’ choices without researching alternatives to spanking or considering whether “okay” could be improved upon.
Consider this, more than 90% of American parents admit to spanking their children, and yet the common contention is that it’s a decline in spanking that is responsible for the purportedly escalating quote it's not our jobrates of youth violence and crime. Is it really the less than 10% of children who aren’t spanked who are responsible for all the problems of our society? Or could it be that the 90% of children who are subject to violence at home in the form of being slapped, paddled, smacked, yanked, whipped, popped, spanked, etc. are taking those lessons out into the world? Is it just possible that children who are hit learn to hit? That children who are hurt learn to hurt? Perhaps the lesson they are learning is that ‘might is right’ and violence is the answer to their problems, the outlet for their stress, the route to getting others to do what they want.
People throughout history have complained about ‘the trouble with kids today’ and they’ve pinned all the ills of their society on supposedly permissive parenting. They’ve ranted about out-of-control children, disrespectful youth, entitlement, spoiling, disobedience, violence, self-centeredness, etc:
“The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority, they show disrespect to their elders…. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and are tyrants over their teachers.”~Socrates, 5th Century BC
“What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?” ~Plato, 5th Century BC
“I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words… When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise [disrespectful] and impatient of restraint” ~Hesiod, 8th Century BC
“The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress.” ~Peter the Hermit, 13th Century AD
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Maybe, though, there isn’t really any ‘trouble with kids today.’ Maybe the problem is with parents who repeat the patterns their own parents set or with societies who view normal stages of development as somehow abnormal.
Maybe ’kid’s today’ are just kids like they have been through the ages, full of exuberance and curiosity and learning their way in a great big world, and a listening ear, gentle guidance, and trusted arms to turn to when inevitable mistakes are made are really all children need to grow up into kind, helpful, responsible, productive members of our society.
The bottom line is that addressing our children’s underlying needs, the actual causes of their behavior instead of just the behavior itself, is a far more effective parental approach as well as being significantly better for a healthy, mutually respectful parent/child relationship. Sending our children out into the world as adults with their needs met, with coping mechanisms in place for those times when the stresses overwhelm them, and with the knowledge of a safe haven where comfort is always available when the world hurts them is a powerful way to change the world for the better.
Maybe, just maybe, sowing peace in our homes is the answer for our children, our families, and our world, after all.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Akhirnya dapat anak no 2!

Allhamdulilah.. Syukur pada Allah swt kerana aku telah selamat bersalinkan anak perempuan pada jam 7.45 pagi di DEMC 9/1/2013.. Anakku seberat 2.63 kg.. Dulu anak pertama 2.78kg.. Makin turun pulak.. apap2 pun akan uploadkan gambarnya kemudian.. Ini dah hari yang ke 18 anakku.. Semoga anakku Nor Aisyah akan menjadi anak yang solehah.. Amin..

Monday, December 17, 2012

Potty Training yang berjaya!

    Ini adalah sambungan kisah potty train sebelum ini.. Sebenarnya nak bagitahu yang Nor Adawiyah dah berjaya di potty trainkan dengan jayanya pada waktu siang dan malam.. Memang pada mulanya sangat2 la memenatkan badan nak ajar anak tak pakai pampers.. ye lah kan.. dah 2 tahun 7 bulan pakai pampers.. alih2 kena kencing and berak dalam tandas pulak.. memang confusing jugak anaknya..

    Saya terpaksa buat secara ad hoc walaupun sebenarnya sangat suka pampers sbb tak payah nak berkejar ke tandas setiap kali anak nak kencing atau berak.. Tapi hakikatnya anak saya dah tak hisap botol susu waktu nak tido malam.. Itu adalah satu pencapaian sebab sebelum ni asal nak tido je nak hisap susu.. Takut jugak gigi dia rosak nanti..

    memang tidak dinafikan penat nak buka dan pakai balik seluar dia setiap kali dia kencing atau berak. Apatah lagi perutku dah semakin membesar.. Dalam masa sebulan lagi nak bersalin dah tapi think of it as a way of exercise.. Lagipun the outcome memang memuaskan.. Lagipun pampers ni kan banyak bahan kimia and not good for the environment pun..

    Apa yang saya buat untuk Adawiyah adalah seperti berikut:-

1. Selalu ajak dia ke tandas setengah jam atau sejam selepas minum susu atau apa2 jenis air pun.. Kalau tanya nak kencing ke tak confirm dia cakap tak tapi alih2 bocor dkt ruang tamu..

2. Pastikan setiap kali dia tak sempat ke tandas encourage dia untuk selalu ke tandas.. Cakap dengan dia kencing dan berak dekat toilet.. Nanti dia akan cakap balik dekat kita..

3. Belikan potty train yang kecil untuk dia.. Saya dapat percuma masa belikan baby cot dia dulu.. ala.. yang RM20 je harga dia.. kecik.. senang nak bawak jalan2..

4. Selalu puji dia bila dia berjaya kencing atau berak dalam tandas..

5. Untuk tido malam pula, jangan bagi dia minum susu dalam jumlah yang banyak 2 jam atau sejam sebelum tido..

6. Sebelum tido, suruh dia kencing dulu, baru tido..

7. Banyakkan berdoa pada Allah semoga dipermudahkan potty train anak..

8. Satu lagi tips penting, kalau anak tak bersedia, jangan dipaksa.. cuba lagi 2 tuga bulan lagi.. insyallah berjaya.. Selamat mencuba!

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